We, humans, are the weirdest of all creatures, we have different faces, sometimes we are happy, sometimes sad, sometimes we are angry, and sometimes we are caring, in short, it is to say we have different emotions. Amongst various such emotions, there is one emotion called love, and love is the most complicated of all emotions, no one knows when one fall in love but one fall in love in the most unfortunate time and in the most unexpected way. As I earlier said, love is complicated, but you know whats more complicated, the question” if you are in love or not? “
But before going into anything, there is one question that we need to ask ourselves, and the problem is “What is love?” This is a question which most of us can’t answer because it is tough to define love. Love has different meanings and different definitions for everyone. Ask yourself what do you think about love and then ask the same question to your friend, you will be surprised to see the wide range of answers that you will get. Talking about myself, love for me is a feeling that makes me see the other person happy, and it is all about respecting others, their ideas, their thoughts, their opinions and everything.
Let me give you an example; I am a vegetarian because I love animals. I can’t see someone I love on my plate, but on the other hand, a person who is a non-vegetarian might also be an animal lover. Still, he might have a different definition of love, If there comes a situation where a vegetarian animal lover and a non-vegetarian animal lover see an animal in trouble it is very much possible that the non-vegetarian person would react and save the person and the vegetarian person won’t.
It’s not the best of example, but I think you got what I was trying to say, so we don’t know what love is, but there is something that we need to know, and that is the fact that love is essential. Love is necessary because it is something that we all want; its the basic desire of a human; we all want to be loved. There is not a single person in the world who could say that he doesn’t want to be loved.
The fact about love is that we might be in love with a living being or we might be in love with a non-living thing, and we fall in love with them not because of what they are but because of what we need. See for yourself, how many of you love travelling? Ask yourself why, and then try finding those friends who are kind of an introvert and lazy and do not enjoy travelling and ask them if they love travelling and if not why so.
See what I want to say is that we all are different, and we all have different needs. Therefore we fall in love with different people or thing, some of us love travelling because we want to feel thrilled, we love the adrenaline rush, and we want to explore reality. Still, some of us love reading books, and we like to escape from the truth and live a new and different life. But why exactly is that, why don’t we all love the same thing.
To answer this question, no two people are the same because they have a different need. We all might have had a little crush or infatuation on someone. That person would have rejected us or would never have looked at us that way, and that is all because of our need, we had a crush on them, or we were fascinated with them, or we were attached to them just because we had specific needs that could only be fulfilled by them. It might have been any kind of need, emotional, mental, physical but something that only they could satisfy but at the same time we don’t have something that they require, and that is the reason they never look at us that way.
Now talking about breakups, many people go through breakups or lose their friends or someone they are attached to, why do people who were once in love with each other drift apart, why do two friends who used to talk about everything, who thought they go along each other very well drift apart. It’s again the same reason, it is all our needs, we feel comfortable with people when we need them, but the moment that person is unable to fulfil those needs things start to go in the dark, and everything becomes toxic.
Love is a big scam; we all love our parents. Still, some people leave their parents when they don’t need them, divorce is a common phenomenon these days, and more importantly, we have no idea what we need, and, therefore most of us have also lost the will of living, and it is all due to the lack of love.
Indeed, we can’t love everyone, and we can’t change anything about that but what we can do is we can practise self-love, we can fulfil our desires we can be there when we need us like a friend, as a family. Once we start practising self-love, we lose the dependency on others and that we could be more caring about others and we could provide others with the support that they need. We can create a fantastic world because love is the most important thing that we can give and offer to others.